Dear parents stay positive. Your child will consider you as a role model and will cultivate
habits by just watching you. Be cautious about your behavior in front of your child.
Some children find themselves less attached to their parents and feel insecure just because of negative emotions shown by their parents. Parents should respond quickly or positively to all the infants’ questions. If a parent does not respond consistently in a warm caring way like – holding, rocking, cooing, stroking or talking softly- the baby might not feel safe and secure.
Handling naughty kids will sometimes make you frustrated. In that case, first, try to control your emotions and relax. Don’t yell at your kid or any of your family members.
Try your kid to take his/her own decision, wrong or right. It will help them to build self-confidence.
Advise them politely.
DO NOT beat them, they will become stubborn. Try to find out their weaknesses and divert them with that thing at that point in time. DO NOT bribe them.
Try to take a walk with your kids in the park (morning or evening time), go for shopping or grocery stores in your free time.
So, dear cool Momsters, Say goodbye to stress or depression. Stay motivated and keep reminding yourself that it is just a matter of time. You are preparing your kid for the future to be a good human being, to achieve success and that begins with your own self-love, to stay happy and be a role model to your kid.
Postpartum Depression is just a phase and it happens with most of the moms. So, create the best version of motherhood. Take a few simple steps to stay happy and motivated. It is all about will power. No one knows everything, they learn over a period of time. So, don’t feel bad if you have done a few mistakes. Feel happy that you are trying to give your best to your child.
“If you have expertise in managing your kids, then half of the stress will vanish”.
Over 90% of the world population is in the same situation. You are not alone. But the choice for a better life is up to you. If you select happiness over depression, love over hatred, spread love, give hope, live your dreams, share peace, be strong in raising your child.
“Motherhood is a gift to a woman. Not all women can become a mother. So, be thankful and give your best shot. Fill your motherhood journey with love, care, and happiness. ”
Share what you feel. The most important factor to overcome depression.
Come on Moms, you all are brave and strong to raise a strong and confident child….!! You need no support or sympathy to fulfill this task of your life.
Let us be happy and make our family happier.
Difficult but possible!
Spread this chain of love and care and concern to other moms. They need it.
As discussed in the previous post, you would have been familiar with the term Postpartum Depression by now.
Now, the question is how can someone know if they or others are suffering from PPD? Let’s see in the symptoms section.
Symptoms of postpartum depression:
It typically lasts from a few hours to several days to several months. Few of the symptoms are :
Irritability
Insomnia (Lack of sleep)
Feeling like crying without any reason.
Unable to concentrate.
Headache
Trying to avoid talking or sharing anything with anyone.
Fear
Anxiety
Loss of appetite
Weight gain or weight loss.
These are a few of the common symptoms. Most of the new moms suffer from this. But, the GOOD NEWSis that these can be overcome by following a few tips or steps :
First of all, Ignore the symptoms and pretend that you are fine.
(In severe case if untreated, the condition may last for months or longer. If the symptoms are mild, follow our tips. If you find very tough to cope up with PD or not able to tackle with it, then you need professional help, treatment can include counseling, antidepressants or hormone therapy.)
Few tips to cope up with postpartum depression:
Depression is an individual trip, what works for me or other moms might not work for you. No matter which approach do you choose, the goal is to figure out which self-care strategies work best for you.
Proper sleep: A good sleep can have a huge and positive effect on how you feel both emotionally and physically. When you’re tired, your body releases cortisol and other stress hormones that can promote weight gain. Many moms follow this strategy and find it helpful. ” Whenever your baby sleeps, take some rest/sleep” You will feel energized and happy. Yes, you need to make yourself mentally prepared that a new mom doesn’t get more than 4 hours of sleep at a stretch. It might be fewer hours than this.
Healthy Foods: Have an early dinner, somewhere between 7.30 pm and 8 pm, so that you are done before 8.30 pm. It will boost your metabolism and let you reduce extra weight.
Do not skip meals. While looking after a baby, many moms forget to eat. If you do not eat, you will have less energy, and it will not help you to take care of your baby.
Self-care: It is very very important to make sure that you are taking good care of your body, mind, and soul every day. “Taking care of yourself is also a part of taking care of baby-unknown”
“Dear Mommies, Loving others begins by loving yourself first” Love your inner beauty as it needs care and affection to grow.
Try to practice this activity today :
stand in front of a mirror, look at it and SMILE. Now, what will you receive? You will receive a smile back” which will help you to feel good and will provide positive energy to look after your kid.
Take control of yourself instead of trying to control others’ thoughts or comments. Try to overcome negative thoughts. DO NOT WORRY STAY HAPPY.
Listening to some nice music: you need to listen to some good music that makes you smile. Everyone has some favorite songs, listen to yours.
Staying with Positive people:Surround yourself with sensible and positive people. Share your motherhood journey or seek to advise from someone who has a positive approach towards motherhood.
“No one is totally peaceful. So stop worrying about things you can’t change and focus on the things that you can change.”
Kid’s world: talk with your kids, make them comfortable, cuddle, play with them, be happy by watching their smile, innocent act.
Prayer: take some time for prayer, make yourself relax.
Inspirational Videos /Book/Article: watch some morally based movies or read something that inspires you and teaches you something new and good.
Rewarding yourself: Do not forget to reward yourself. If you feel like you have done or learned something new to handle your thoughts or baby or any situation. Please be happy and pat your back. It is very difficult and if you have achieved a reward yourself.
Cultivating time Management:We moms are strong enough to achieve anything, Time management is the key. prioritizing the list and manage accordingly will help you to have control over time and then you can see yourself transforming into a supermom.
If your husband/family members support in sharing household work then well and good. If not. no worries, we moms can handle both kids and other required works single-handedly. One of the best examples of time management which many moms practice every day.
Waking up early and trying to finish all household work before the baby wakes up; in that way you get plenty of time to spend with your baby and enjoy their activities.
Practice Yoga:You can get good relief and peace by practicing proper breathing techniques and meditation.
Anger Management:Do you often find yourself expressing your emotions through anger? Most of the moms do, so don’t worry, it is very common. But, here lies the secret of good child management skills. Working on your anger will provide more positive energy to handle your kid and situation. Less anger more happiness and in turn, you will become more optimistic towards motherhood journey.
{During this phase, it is better to ignore a few situations which demand opinion or a long conversation.}
Respecting elders: Regarding baby, if you find any suggestion from elders then just respect them, say ok or yes and later without hurting their ego follow your proper treatment by consulting pediatrician
Stay active: It is true that if we do exercise everyday it helps in maintaining our mental health in good condition. We remain active and positive throughout the day. But, just after delivery, it might not be possible. But, being active doesn’t require a heavy work out. You can take a small walk with your baby in the morning or evening. At home also don’t sit for a longer period. Keep walking or doing certain household works. Staying active will keep you active in taking care of the baby and yourself.
Taking a shower and relaxing:Don’t skip a shower. Taking a shower helps in relaxing the whole body.
Helping someone in need. By helping especially other new moms in terms of knowing about this term, you will feel good and happy. If you find any mom who needs your suggestion, talk to them. Only listening to them make them feel relaxed and clam..
Believe in yourself
You will have to believe in yourself that you are doing your best for your kid and will keep doing. Don’t let others’ opinions ruin your belief system. They are just an opinion. Smile and keep doing your work.
Waking up early and drinking a glass full of water in an empty stomach.
learning something new.
Try to appreciate genuinely someone every day
Value your ambitions and work on them daily.
It is difficult to take out time to work on your life goal if any. But you can think or try to discuss it with someone in your free time. The kids will not be of the same age, they will grow and whatever you have worked during these periods will help you to restart your career or to work towards your goal.
Not to forget to love yourself.
Hope, by this time you know what you have to do to keep yourself happy and cope up with PD in case you are suffering from this.
Stay Happy Mommy, as your kid totally depends on you. He will connect positively if you stay positive. Are you still thinking about where to start … !! Then, take a tour of your home once 🙂
We are here, again with a very strong topic that has a greater impact on mothers but most of the people including moms are unaware of this fact!! That is “POSTPARTUM (After Childbirth) DEPRESSION”
First of all, let us give a big round of applause for ourselves to giving our best as a MOTHER.
Now, let us discuss the term called, Postpartum depression. It is not depressing as it sounds 🙂 Just go through the points mommies, you will understand the right symptoms and few steps to overcome it.
After childbirth, the levels of hormones (estrogen & progesterone) in a woman’s body, quickly drop. This leads to chemical changes in her brain that might cause mood swings. In addition, being a mother means a set of responsibilities and pressures, and it is natural for a new mom to feel overwhelmed and stressed.
Above all, everyone expects a mom to take care of the child mainly. Child Care Management is not an easy task but if managed properly, there is no such job in life to get the utmost satisfaction.
Most of the moms are expected to cook, feed, wash & do all household work, and due to all these factors, many moms are unable to get rest which they need to recover fully after giving birth to a child.
Above all, after carrying out all the responsibility, they do not get an appreciation for that, but, if something goes wrong there will be many fingers to point out.
Like me, I am very much sure you might have thought about your mother. Now, you can feel her every such feeling that she would have undergone and there was no one to understand them. It is too late to make everything right but yes, what I did, you can do too. You will feel very happy. Say thanks to your mom and talk about this topic. Discuss with her and appreciate her that she could deal with the situation so well.
Though it is easier said than done it always works and creates a positive thought process and energy to look after a kid.
“Never look for appreciation or sympathy from others for looking after your kid. You are doing great. Remember that .”
Let us create a beautiful world of moms where we can appreciate each other, show empathy and respect each and everyone’s opinion. You might be thinking “how”. It is very simple. Just talk to your relatives, friends who are pregnant or have delivered recently. Trust me it will create awareness about how to deal with PPD
There are several factors that can affect depression in a positive or negative way. Few of the direct factors are :
Spouse
Family
Let us discuss one by one !!!
Mommy, make sure your HUSBAND is reading this paragraph :
Moms with postpartum depression need help and support from their partners, friends and family members. They need to let go off the idea that they are the only ones who should look after the baby.
Gentlemen it is time to stand with and be a support to your wife who has been bearing all the pain just for your happiness and for the entire family.
A request to encourage her, be with her in your free time and make her comfortable with your love and care.
And also a request to every such gentleman who thinks it is only mom’s responsibility to look after a child, to pay more attention to the needs of the kids and the house, without your wife’s constant reminder.
Criticism at this time might cause severe depression. The most important fact is that the habit of criticism is hazardous to any relationship. So, appreciate or help and be kind.
A Note to the New mom’s family
“Dear family members of each momster, please make sure that you are creating a positive atmosphere for her to be at peace and happily look after her kid.”
Yes, family plays a crucial role in dealing with Postpartum Depression. For example, if anyone visits to see the newborn and the new mom, they can make sure that they are not spending more time with them as they both need time to take rest and more than that the superstitious suggestions which come for free from them.. !!
I hope, the article would have given some sigh of relief to you !!
Now, a few more points are very important and need to be known. We are talking about New Mom’s depression but do you know the new father also undergoes depression? Yes, it is true.. !! Let’s see how?
Post-partum Depression in Men:
The first few months following the birth can be exhausting and emotionally very confusing for both parents and can put a lot of stress on their relationship.
Postpartum depression in men different from women, because women have to do deal with the fluctuation of hormones.
Men just develop a form of situational depression. They generally find a big change and struggles to cope with his new life roles and responsibility in which he has no prior experience.
The man could develop depression because of the stress and changes that accompany new parenthood. In the case of men, therapy is a better approach than medication. In the case of female postpartum depression, if the hormones play a major role in depression then medication is recommended.
Last but not least … a kid is raised comfortably when both, husband and wife, try to help and understand each other. !!
hence,
A small note to husband and wife :
“Sometimes a man can’t empathize with his wife who is suffering from depression after childbirth. Sometimes a woman can’t empathize with her husband who feels pressure every day because of work or new parenthood duties. The only solution is “Try to understand each other’s situation and keep building a loving and caring environment for the kid”
Remember, your kid will learn from what you donot from what you say.
Dear parents stay positive. Your child will consider you as a role model and will cultivate
Irritability
” Whenever your baby sleeps, take some rest/sleep” You will feel energized and happy. Yes, you need to make yourself mentally prepared that a new mom doesn’t get more than 4 hours of sleep at a stretch. It might be fewer hours than this.
so that you are done before 8.30 pm. It will boost your metabolism and let you reduce extra weight.
“Dear Mommies, Loving others begins by loving yourself first” Love your inner beauty as it needs care and affection to grow.
music that makes you smile. Everyone has some favorite songs, listen to yours.
journey or seek to advise from someone who has a positive approach towards motherhood.
based movies or read something that inspires you and teaches you something new and good.
to handle your thoughts or baby or any situation. Please be happy and pat your back. It is very difficult and if you have achieved a reward yourself. 
We moms are strong enough to achieve anything, Time management is the key. prioritizing the list and manage accordingly will help you to have control over time and then you can see yourself transforming into a supermom.
practicing proper breathing techniques and meditation.
Most of the moms do, so don’t worry, it is very common. But, here lies the secret of good 
hurting their ego follow your proper treatment by consulting pediatrician
helps in relaxing the whole body.
create a beautiful world of moms where we can appreciate each other, show empathy and respect each and everyone’s opinion. You might be thinking “how”. It is very simple. Just talk to your relatives, friends who are pregnant or have delivered recently. Trust me it will create awareness about 