hahha… Yes, whoever has gone through these so called comparative situation might have a good laugh after reading it. But, those who are still listening to such comments might be experiencing some irritation, unexpressed feelings and what not?
It is so irritating when we hear that everyone around us start saying “your child face is just like your husband” but if anyone by mistake try to say that the baby looks like his/her mother, we could see many raised eyebrows .. !
Isn’t it so funny that a newborn who needs a calm and peaceful environment, love and care, he gets all these sorts of silly things which has no relevance. It actually takes away a mother’s mental peace at that point of time. It might not seem a big issue but even a mother expects that someone would say that the baby has got her smile or eyes or nose. These little issues are ignored with unexpressed frustration which gets piled up gradually with lot of other issues and oozes out once it reaches its limit.
But, let me tell you my dear Mommies, even we should not expect to hear from someone saying baby is like mother. Reason is very simple, a new born baby looks like a newborn. It is not a movie like Suryavansham (father’s and son’s role by Mr Amitabh Bachhan) or other such movies where father’s and son’s faces are same.
Now, again these comparison are evergreen till our baby becomes a father or mother or till we die. So, do we need to be frustrated all the time.
A BIG NO … NO… NO
Just ignore it. Once baby grows try to analyze by yourself which feature he has received from you and your husband. Yes, babies inherit few characteristics which will be visible later like big eyes, green eyes, a dimple or a broad forehead or a big head etc. It is very common. But amidst all these comparison… One thing is very true.. A Newborn looks like a Newborn… 🙂 Let him enjoy his own identity. Let us not trap him in our so called superficial demand of looking alike.
At the end, if you are a new Mom please ignore such conversation. Smile and think that it doesn’t matter how does he look like or resembles with, what matters is his developmental stages and the joy which is going to be unfolded everyday. Those precious time matters where both the parents spend time with the newborn and help each other in baby’s growth day by day, month by month and year after year.
That is the only things matter…. Nothing else matters to spend our energy over.
Let us save our energy and confidence that will help us grow as a mother along with our baby.
Why does it happen that when we ladies become pregnant , though we become a new source of happiness in the family, we feel lonely, not supported emotionally or pampered -sometimes or most of the times or all the times.
Yes, it is true that we will have to take care of a growing baby. We are suppose to do all the household works at the same time despite having no mood to do sometimes. We also have to fight with stress or work if I am a working woman. So, why an issue gets into these happy moments and it feels that pregnancy is not a beautiful journey but a forcefully manipulated happy moments.
Yes Mommies, today we will discuss about “Emotional yet Not Supported Emotionally” journey of New Moms.
The first step of motherhood journey starts with an Emotional Connect with the unseen baby which is not even inside the womb. It starts with Emotion and it is for life long. Only the form of Emotion varies at every stage of motherhood.
It is very unfortunate that the near and dear ones fail to understand our mental condition during the journey of motherhood.
When we find out that a small life has started occupying our body space, we smile but no clear feelings to express. A mixed feeling, a fear, a doubt, confidence goes away just because we start judging ourselves as a mother now. If we will be able to carry this for next 9 months carefully, what if something goes wrong, am I good enough to become a Mother? and list goes on…
Now, when we are fighting with such emotions already, there are several suggestions starts coming in all the time. Whether we require or not it keeps coming and coming and it becomes never ending process.
Now, if we complain about it, we become not so caring mother or we will be pointed out our mistakes that might lead to some problem during pregnancy. When we look upto someone who we think can give us some emotional support, they also turn out to be a different person altogether.
It is not that all suggestions are bad or all become our enemy. But, due to lack of constant emotional support everything feels like negative.
The bad news is that women who have gone through the same phases, are also unable to understand. Either they criticize or talk nonsense. But, one cannot expect an emotional support from them too.
So, my question is why, why Emotional Support is so difficult that we donot receive time to time. ?
Yes, we are going to be a mother. It brings a lots of responsibilities towards baby, family and yes, towards ourselves too. This “We” part is forgotten during this journey.
We start getting judged as a Mother by our appearance, habits, the way we represent ourselves and so many. Really, does it even matter to discuss when you say we should be happy and positive all the time so that baby would be safe and happy. No, Not at all.
Now, the question is these things cannot be changed overnight and we, during pregnancy time need peaceful time and space. So, how to manage them and these emotional issues when we are going through a lots of emotional changes and outbursts.
Let us find some solution so that we can avoid it to an extent.
At First, Accept that these things are inevitable, cannot be stopped/avoided completely. Acceptance over ignorance helps a lot in these conditions.
Let us not jump into any kind of arguments because at this point of time we are unaware of our own emotions. Suddenly one argument will take us from being positive and stronger to negative and weaker version of us.
What if we just smile on something someone says even if we donot agree with and it does not make any sense. few examples are, “you look weak that will effect your milk supply later” , “your belly size says that it will a boy/girl”, ” you are so careless but now you cannot because you have to be very careful with baby” and list goes on.
If we hear all these things, at first only one thought comes into our mind, “Whatttttt”
How do they know how strong I might be feeling, how do they know if it is a girl or a boy just by seeing a belly size, how can they judge us as a mother based on my rapport with them.
We might feel irritated, and burning with anger but what if we count till 5, control our anger and try to divert the topic. Yes, divert the topic because what do all they need is gossips. Let them talk on the topic of our choice.
Next solution might be avoiding talking to them directly. If it over phone then we have some control but what if they are staying with us or are frequent visitors. In that case also we can simply say that we need rest after having few hi hellos…. !
many solutions we might find but we know there are unlimited things where we feel helpless and not emotionally supported.
Incase our family members understand, well and good else we donot have to be sad or disappointed.
Now, we need to understand ” We Have Power To Create A Life Within Us”. We are already powerful. We just have to recognize and cherish this super power. Nothing matters infront of our baby. We have to be genuinely happy. We need to feel it that our happiness is for us. If we are happy then we can make others especially baby happy.
Above all, we have to stay happy and confident for our baby. Post pregnancy once the baby is kept in our arm, all our sorrows, struggle and complaints vanish.. It gets converted to joy, happiness and Selfie or groupie time 🙂
I don’t know if I did justice with the topic or not. But I tried to put my best effort to cover all the points which will help new moms who have just started their journey of pregnancy.
Please do read and leave your feedback in the comment section. You can also suggest few topics which are situation based and Moms have to face it.
Let us share our joy and divide or difficulties by sharing it and building a community of new moms so that they will also get helped in some ways.
Pregnancy has to deal with lots minor ailments. We have already published a blog post on Constipation today let’s talk about how to handle diarrhea during pregnancy.
Diarrhea is less common during pregnancy and is not the result of fluctuating hormones; generally diarrhea tends to be caused by something that originates outside the body.
“Diarrhea is nothing but the passage of loose or watery stools at least 3 or more times in a day (or more frequently than usual).”
Ok now let’s have a look on what puts any pregnant lady at risk of Diarrhea?
Virus / bacteria / stomach flu / intestinal parasites /food poisoning – If you suspect any of these people then contact doctor immediately. Medications: Sometimes prenatal Calcium / vitamin cause loose stools, in that case change of brands makes you feel better.
Eating foods that contain lots of sugar or alcohol.
If you not having a good pregnancy walks.
Had something uncooked.
My personnel experience:
I experienced diarrhea near my due date, which might be because our body prepares itself for labour. But that doesn’t mean your labour is very close, so don’t get alarmed. Some MoMsters will not even experience diarrhea, each mother’s experience will be different.
Action steps /Remedies for dealing with diarrhea: Pregnant women should talk to health professionals before consuming any herbal medicines/ home remedies.
In the Morning, drink ginger water: Add a few tablespoons of freshly grated or finely chopped ginger to a cup of water and boil for 5 minutes. This remedy helps to removes gastritis and reduces intensity of diarrhea.
Drink ajwain water: Add 1 teaspoon to a cup of boiling water. Stir, let it cool and then drink.
Take probiotics like curd.
ORS should be continued as long as diarrhea lasts.
Drink plenty of water to rehydrate your body.
For dinner: have jeera rice which is good for easy digestion
Till loose motion stops try to avoid milk products.
Avoid colas, coffee, tea and other soft drink, high sugar in these drinks can draw water from your stomach, making diarrhea even worse.
Stay at home and get plenty of rest. Dear MoMsters even after implementing all of these elements and still struggling to recover, then you need to consult doctor for further investigation.
Do not take an antidiarrheal medication without consulting your doctor.
Please don’t lift weight.
Prevention: “Don’t get frighten by seeing the long list, in short these are very common precautions for your good health.”
Avoid junk food during pregnancy.
Drink plenty of water.
Consume more fruits, at least three servings a day.
Don’t lie down immediately after eating; go for a short walk which helps in proper digestion.
Use clean washroom; make sure the toilet seats, flush handles, taps are cleaned daily.
Do not eat foods from unhygienic place.
Do not drink juice or milkshake from outside vendors, because adding raw milk for the preparation of milkshake will leads to infection. Moreover avoid an ice cube which is made of tap water.
Fruits and vegetables should be thoroughly rinsed in clean water.
Avoid raw or uncooked meat/egg.
Do not leave the left over food for next day.
Avoid fatty and spicy foods: because pregnant women are prone to acidity having those will increase the acidity.
When do I need to see a doctor? Generally Diarrhea doesn’t last as long and infact it is less common during pregnancy. Mild case isn’t anything to really worry about, but if you find you have severe diarrhea (more than 3 watery stools a day)
Stools that is bloody.
severe abdominal pain
Signs of dehydration
If you have any of these symptoms, then visit your doctor ASAP. Have a safe pregnancy. Hope this post is helpful…. Take care.”
Today I’m sharing my tips for how to handle constipation, one of the nastiest pregnancy symptoms. 🙁
Constipation is a common complaint during pregnancy and it is very uncomfortable. It occurs in about 11-40% of the women. By definition, Constipation is described as hard, a dry stool which is difficult /painful to pass out of the body.
Constipation treatment during pregnancy needs special attention due to concerns for the safety of the mother and child. For example, anthraquinone laxatives such as danthron are associated with congenital malformation etc.
Constipation cannot be managed by medication alone. Better short- and long-term outcomes are achieved with lifestyle changes, including a proper diet.
Understanding the symptoms of constipation:
A recent change in bowel habits
Bowel movements that feel incomplete
Lumpy or hard stools
Gas pains or a bloated abdomen
Loss of appetite
Let us understand the causes of constipation during pregnancy.
Here we go;
Constipation during pregnancy is mainly caused by hormonal changes. The increase in the progesterone hormone relaxes the muscles of the digestive tract, which slows down the movement of food through the body, causing constipation.
Routine iron supplementation in the pregnant population.
Fetal development in late gestation can cause constipation.
Decreased physical activity during pregnancy.
and then, finally Constipation.
That means it is purely relay on an individual lifestyle, food, sleep, work pattern. The good news is that there are remedies for constipation, please go through it.
Drink plenty of water:
Proper hydration helps support your growing baby and also helps to prevent from constipation, so keep the water bottle handy, drink up and check your urine – pale yellow is a sign that you’re on the right track.
If possible drink one glass of warm water after you wake up from bed, trust me that’s a good habit to be healthy.
Eat more fibers:
It’s a great way to eat fresh fruits (pears, apples) after every meal and also include in your diet vegetables such as (beans, carrot, cauliflower, kohlrabi / nukal, spinach, peas), whole-grain cereals and legumes like lentils which helps to reduce constipation.
Regular safe exercise:
Keeping active is one of the single most important things, which helps increase muscle activity in your intestines to help your stool pass more easily. (I preferred doing safe household work during my pregnancy and I felt great – This included sweeping home, using the stairs instead of lift, after every meal a short walk with my husband for 15- 20 mins). But considering on safer side, avoid any activities that may put you at risk for falling or injury.
Is the consumption of probiotics helpful in constipation?
I would say yes, Probiotics are known as positive and friendly bacteria and includes two very famous types of Lactobacillus, Biﬁdobacterium which helps to improve gut health and soften stools.
Probiotics like yogurt, Yakult can alter the colonic ﬂora and might improve bowel function.
If you strain to poo because of severe constipation, then it increases the risk of developing piles. Hence treat constipation before the symptoms worsen.
Go to the restroom when you feel the first urge.
If you are a lover of coffee, tea, and other soft drinks, then please avoid for your good health.
If you are taking iron supplements (used to treat anaemia) and found that makes you constipated, then request your doctor to prescribe a different brand.
When do you need to see a doctor?
If your constipation doesn’t improve with home remedies and lifestyle change or if you feel severe or sharp abdominal pain, particularly if you are also bloated, and if you find thin pencil-like stools, pain in your rectum then talk to your doctor immediately for further treatment.
Remember constipation can be the cause of piles, so if you notice anything uncommon in your bowel movements, do get it diagnosed.
So, MoMsters I hope this content might be helpful for you to understand and say goodbye to stress. 🙂
Now, I request you to share your valuable feedback… 🙂
Sana Zahoor, Masroor Ellahi Babar, Muhammad Mohsin Javed, Tanveer Hussain. Constipation in pregnancy: causes and remedies: Progress in Nutrition 2018; Vol. 20, Supplement 1: 305-311.
Mirghafourvand M, Homayouni Rad A, Mohammad Alizadeh Charandabi S, Fardiazar Z, Shokri K. The Effect of Probiotic Yogurt on Constipation in Pregnant Women: A Randomized Controlled Clinical Trial, Iran Red Crescent Med J. 2016; 18(11):e39870.
Hello dear MoMsters, did you just come to know you’re pregnant or about to complete 1st or 2nd or 3rd trimester?
Are the minor ailments stealing your precious moments?
Do not worry! We can provide some much-needed support and with that information, you can manage the minor ailments of pregnancy without having any stress.
First of all, keep your mind cool and at peace. I know it is easier said than done but discomforts are going to have a negative impact on maternal happiness; hence improved knowledge about it might reduce the need for medication during this phase.
Undoubtedly, pregnancy is one of the most precious and important times in a woman’s life. However, during pregnancy, it is always suggested to take safe medicines/treatment for minor ailments (All the ailments are explained in detail in the next blog posts individually) such as: