“He looks like his dad”
“She looks like her Mom”
“OMG he has got his dad’s face”and so on…
hahha… Yes, whoever has gone through these so called comparative situation might have a good laugh after reading it. But, those who are still listening to such comments might be experiencing some irritation, unexpressed feelings and what not?
It is so irritating when we hear that everyone around us start saying “your child face is just like your husband” but if anyone by mistake try to say that the baby looks like his/her mother, we could see many raised eyebrows .. !
Isn’t it so funny that a newborn who needs a calm and peaceful environment, love and care, he gets all these sorts of silly things which has no relevance. It actually takes away a mother’s mental peace at that point of time. It might not seem a big issue but even a mother expects that someone would say that the baby has got her smile or eyes or nose. These little issues are ignored with unexpressed frustration which gets piled up gradually with lot of other issues and oozes out once it reaches its limit.
But, let me tell you my dear Mommies, even we should not expect to hear from someone saying baby is like mother. Reason is very simple, a new born baby looks like a newborn. It is not a movie like Suryavansham (father’s and son’s role by Mr Amitabh Bachhan) or other such movies where father’s and son’s faces are same.
Now, again these comparison are evergreen till our baby becomes a father or mother or till we die. So, do we need to be frustrated all the time.
A BIG NO … NO… NO
Just ignore it. Once baby grows try to analyze by yourself which feature he has received from you and your husband. Yes, babies inherit few characteristics which will be visible later like big eyes, green eyes, a dimple or a broad forehead or a big head etc. It is very common. But amidst all these comparison… One thing is very true.. A Newborn looks like a Newborn… 🙂 Let him enjoy his own identity. Let us not trap him in our so called superficial demand of looking alike.
At the end, if you are a new Mom please ignore such conversation. Smile and think that it doesn’t matter how does he look like or resembles with, what matters is his developmental stages and the joy which is going to be unfolded everyday. Those precious time matters where both the parents spend time with the newborn and help each other in baby’s growth day by day, month by month and year after year.
That is the only things matter…. Nothing else matters to spend our energy over.
Let us save our energy and confidence that will help us grow as a mother along with our baby.
Stay Happy. Stay Relevant
Direct Dil Se,
A Mom By Choice.